Strands of Love (Sam Groce)

Strands of Love

​Love is tested in many ways through many relationships. Infertility runs through a household in a very quiet and painful way. You find yourself having conversations you never envisioned having, where you want answers all you have is silence, a type of grief that you cannot give a name. It strains your communication, raises your emotions, as well as makes the strongest feel like they are falling apart wondering where God is.

​It is a new type of hurt that you did not know was possible. The waiting hurts. You ache because of all the unanswered prayers. Month after month, test after test, the weight of hoping will feel heavy on any marriage. It is very easy and simple for us to isolate and allow the disappointment to make our love for one another to feel stretched thin.

But God has provided us with a way to remind us that we were never meant to stand alone in love.

​During my wedding ceremony, our unity symbol was to take three strands of rope and make a braid, in the end the rope was made into a cross. Ecclesiastes talks of three stands making a cord consisting of God, a husband, and his wife woven together as one. As many struggles in a marriage do, infertility pulls at the threads, however when we put God in the center, Those strains we feel in our marriage become the strength that holds us together. By pressing into God allows couples to create a space for vulnerability, honesty, and grace to flow where frustration once lived.

​Love looks different in this season. It looks like holding hands while the doctor talks about next steps, praying through both of your tears, choosing compassion over comparison when you see someone else's pregnancy announcement. Instead of drifting apart in silence it looks like sitting together through the tension. It is all about learning to trust God and believe he will hold you both as you grieve together instead of walking through it separately.

​God does not waste the season of waiting. He uses them to deepen trust, strengthen unity, and to refine our hearts. Love grows rooms that are so much deeper than any circumstance when couples choose together to bring their pain to him in unity. Infertility may test any marriage, however it does not have to stain it. Allowing God to be woven into the center of your marriage, love starts to become more honest, more anchored, and more resilient than ever before. The waiting will hurt, but allowing the love helped by God will endure forever!

“And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12

Dear God, I pray over the woman reading this, whether she is walking through this season now, has already walked this season in the past, or simply knows someone else walking through it, I ask that you draw near her today. Remind her that she is fully known, deeply loved, and never forgotten. Lord, quart her marriage and her heart. Where this season has put a strain on her and her marriage I ask you to bring tenderness. Bring strength where there is weariness. Teach her and her husband how to lean into you more in unity, trusting you as they put you in the center, and allow their love to grow even stronger during this waiting season.

Amen

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A little bit about Sam...

Hello, my name is Sam Groce! I am 29 years young and married to my best friend Dalton! We have two fur baby dogs and a hairless guinea pig! I have a passion for serving people and helping out in any capacity I possibly can! My go to verse is Psalm 139:14 because it allows me to pause and remember the promises God has for me so I can praise him through any peak and valley!